A Gripping Tale Of Sindhiyat Erosion
This is a novel set in the Bhaibund community, which was comprised of were the merchant princes of Sindh who used to celebrate their success with fabulous homes and flamboyant weddings, Sindhi roots streaked with the colours of the world. At present it is another unfortunately diminishing community, which has shrunk as a result of development, globalisation, migration, intermarriages and a sad decimation of roots. It tells the story of an extended family of women who came across together during partition and then went on to rehabilitate themselves in different parts of India and the globe from Indonesia to the North Africa and West Indies.
The writer, through this story, traces the history back to Partition of India which saw the total loss of Sindh to Pakistan. As a result, a part of Sindhi community stayed back while other sections of this community migrated to India. Of course, they felt that it was temporary phase and they would be able to return back to Sindh after sometime. But unfortunately, they could not and had to remunerate other losses forever but could not adjust in the environment in which they had to live in the new post-Partition period. Of course, the educated class amongst them could comparatively adjust better with their resettlement problems and could gradually get moulded in the Indian mould. They settled in various cities of India, started speaking the local languages, but there was a gradual erosion of Sindhiyat, specially amongst the younger generation. Sindhi masses took up to trading in settlements which evolved into dirty cesspools, once again deterring this generation from acknowledging their Sindhi roots. But fortunately, this community achieved spectacular commercial success as it has been in this occupation for the past so many centuries.
A Cogent Appraisal Of Improving Relationship
Building great relationships is all about understanding the mechanics of love, which is the cornerstone of all relationships. But where we often seem to go wrong is in understanding the mechanics of love itself. Because we associate love to only mind or brain, we consider the whole concept of relationships as a matter of intellect, reasoning and imagination. However, this is not true. If love were a product of brain or intellect only, the more educated, learned urban people would have been perfect husbands or wives, parents, bosses, colleagues, friends or others; and the ordinary village folks would have trouble relating to others. In the same token, psychologists, the people who understand mind better than anyone else, would probably be highly successful with their own relationships. In reality, however, we have comparatively more cases of broken marriage, divorce, trouble with parents and children, and dubious friendship among the more educated and scholarly people. Keeping all these aspects in views, one would find this book useful for creating and maintaining great relationship.
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By Neelam Yadav
The writer, through this story, tries to make an in-depth study of the post-Partition sociological development and states that there has been a break in the pattern of social life they lived. Generally, in the past, man in this community used to go out for work and women stayed at home. It was the women fold who managed the family quite freely without any male interference in the day-to-day life. Whenever the man came home from abroad, the pussy-footed women moved around them, knowing fully well that they are at home only for a temporary period and will be away on their business tours after sometime. In the changed environment, man had to stay at home for a longer period and the Sindhi man and woman stayed together. This pattern of life created some gender discomfort as it interferred with the independence of the women in the family, as Sindhi men and women started living in Sindhi enclaves not only in India but in different other parts of the world. Initially, even in foreign countries, to a certain extent, they clung to the Sindhiyat. But after some time, their lives started bearing the impact of ABCD (American Born Confused Desi), which often clashed with their original Sindhiyat. There developed a confusion whether to adopt the culture of the society they lived in or to continue with their own Sindhiyat. There were desires of cross border marriages and to adopt the social customs of the society they presently lived in. They made flamboyant shows of their Sindh roots, streaked with the closure of the world.
The writer finally concludes that post-Partition major sociological development was a break with the ancient Bhaibunds men leaving their families at home to live and work abroad. There has been a sociological change in the lives of the families living together even at the cost of some discomfort.
Pustak Mahal, J-3/16, Daryaganj, New Delhi-110002
By Prof KD Sharma