Shoot the Stress
It was long overdue to publish a cover story on stress management and modern lifestyle (This week’s cover story in Hindi edition). Starting from the village life to the urban life, most of the human beings are stressed with work pressure. All are busy saying: Life has become a misery to live a peaceful family life. Everybody is busy buying his/her modern-day comforts and relinquishing the God-given eternal peace, and in the return, all get a free gift called stress. One of our writers has argued that stress is good to enjoy a joyful life. Now-a-days, our modern-day saints are running regular classes for the hardcore professionals to distress them and become happy. In my considered view, it’s we who want to be stressful or be in a relax mode, in any situation. The most important factor that controls our mind is what message we send to our brain to sway our moods. Our Shastras say: Our duty is to perform good Karma, and never bother about its results–good or bad. Sanatan Dharma teaches us that God has decided everything for us. We need not worry too much about our future, as it is not in our hand. When a child is born, God has managed mother’s milk as his or her food. God has very meticulously planned for the survival of human lives and the planets. The most unusual thing that we do is: we act against the will of the nature. We forcefully stop the free flowing waters of rivers; we destroy forests; we live a lifestyle that is borrowed from the western countries. We stay away from our family. We ignore the warnings of nature in forms of floods, cyclones or earthquakes. We keep our children away from their grandfather or grandmother, as a result, they are not infused with moral lessons. Hence, I think we all should return to our roots, which means to follow Bharatiyata.
In today’s world, can one truly “have it all”: A fulfilling career full of passion and performance? A belief that one is truly becoming the best, authentic version of oneself? Keeping these points in mind, it is a powerful key to help one draw enough strength from life to feel fulfilled, loved, successful, and in control. Even more, in the contemporary life, to eradicate the stress, it is inevitable that one reconnects with one’s principle and gives a starting point for change. The secret to live a stress-free life lies in knowing how to discover positive things in you. You can find energising moments in each aspect of your life, but to do so you must learn how to catch them, hold on to them, feel the pull of their weight, and allow yourself to follow where they lead. One should learn how to handle all the responsibilities on one’s shoulders without feeling spasms of guilt that you aren’t doing enough, or that what you’re doing is wrong. One should learn how you can use life to strengthen you, rather than break you down. The challenge of all the different roles you play is not that you don’t have enough hours in the day. The challenge of all these roles is that during the hours you choose to work you have too many different things going on at any one time to focus properly. More than likely, your life calls on you to play all the roles some of the time, but, even so, you are not a blank slate–your personality doesn’t shift and morph according to the demands of every unique situation. It is noteworthy that to combat stress, one should know how to accept your lead role and build your life around it. This doesn’t mean you have to abandon the grand dreams you have for your life. On the contrary, more often than not, acceptance is the necessary precondition for discovering exactly how you can live out these dreams. Sometime, a situation compels us to think that our well-wishers maintain a safe distance from us; friends who support us are also detaching themselves not to continue the same relationship in the same pattern as we had in the past. Also some complex environment in our private and professional life teaches us to rethink about the meaning of life. We will certainly overcome the rough, dry patches. The divine power would also find ways to overcome bottlenecks. We must avoid wasting our time on others’ happiness. Instead of discussing our problems with others with a hope of kind words or kind help, we should calmly fine-tune our own strategy. Since we are the best doctor of our body, mind and soul, our own brain has the best ideas for our own problems.
By Deepak Kumar Rath