How To Celebrate Yourself
In searching the wisdom of our planet from the oldest truths to the most modern sayings, the book extinguishes the fire of myths that have held us in bondage to tension and stress. It guides us through one of the key paradoxes–and stresses–of our time: how to balance what others need with what we need, how to give and receive. While modern society is ill-equipped to bring us back into balance, the sages of East and West are experts and the book explores their practical and surprising advice. In fact, inside the book, you’ll find empowering tools to help you honour your best self so you can give creatively and abundantly in ways that honour others. The book, which is divided into four parts, highlights that while we are called to give, and to give joyfully, life also beckons us to master the art of balance. We have a duty not just to give to others, but to give to ourselves–and to see ourselves as worthy of receiving. We’ve inherited deep-seated myths about giving that keep us tied up in a lopsided approach to living. The book emphasises that as we delve more deeply into the inner art of giving and receiving, we come to see that we don’t just honour ourselves by stepping back from the busyness that surrounds us to attend to our own needs. We also honour ourselves by doing the opposite–by not holding back and by giving all we can give. To understand why this is true, we must dissect our long-held beliefs around gift-giving, many of which block us from giving the most important gift we can give–the gift of our heart.
The book, underlining the mantra of our life “stay open and receptive to everything that comes your way”, divulges that sages, psychologists, and even our best friends recite it to us. Honour everything and everyone in your life as a message or a messenger. It’s true that we are meant to learn from the events, encounters, and emotions that take their turns tiptoeing or tramping through our lives. But does that mean we must embrace everything that shows up at our doorsteps, no matter what it looks like, feels like, or smells like? Therein lies the paradox–and where there is paradox, the magic can’t be far behind. Honouring our own voices and choices is not easy in a world that presents us with more voices and choices than ever. To do so, we must resist the tide that would pull us along with the crowd. And to do that, we must learn to celebrate who we are. While life provides us with mentors and role models to guide us along the way, in the end we must depart from all mentors and models. Their path may not be our path, and their final destination may not be our own. The book suggests that the sages say that their job is not to become our teachers, parents, friends, or advisors, but to become ourselves. Often the hardest part of that equation is learning to trust the process, savour the moments, and fall back in love with who we are.
By Ashok Kumar